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One Perspective By Lynne Youdin | 26-06-2007 http://www.sexyadsnews.com

Today I was listening to a 26 year old male at work tell me that he cheats on his girlfriend a lot.

Then he said he recently found out that she had cheated on him and that it had made him feel kind of funny. Then he said how that had really surprised him because he was the one who cheated and he had never thought that she'd be the kind of person to do that. “Especially,” he added with a slightly wicked grin, “when she didn't know I was cheating on her.” And his eyes flashed with a bit of smugness.

I looked straight at him. “She knew about it,” I said, trying to put aside an inner feeling of disgust.

“She did not,” he said, stopping what he was doing to look over at me and wonder why I would even say that.

“Of course she did,” I told him, shaking my head at him. Another co-worker joined the conversation. I watched her shake her own head at him. “She knew,” she told him also. “You just don't want to believe that she knew.”

He stood there for a moment and looked at the two of us. “Well, if she knew...” he said, with a kind of queer smile on his face, “She's acting like she doesn't, so maybe she doesn't want to know.” I couldn't quite understand the smile, but it rubbed me the wrong way a little bit. I warned myself not to say anything and clamped my mouth shut. Happily, the other girl spoke up again. “You're right-she doesn't want to know,” she told him in a tone that implied: you're an idiot. She went back to her work but then glanced over at me and I could see that we shared the same opinion of what we were hearing.

Now, in general, I like younger guys. Some of them are sweeter and sexier than men my age. Some times. But in a heartbeat, I would take a mature attitude over a lackadaisical one, particularly where the feelings of someone else was concerned. Right away this guy made clear of where he is in life; and I believe that if we women paid more attention to what guys are actually saying than what we'd like them to say, we'd have a hell of a lot less to contend with later.

I'm a person who tends to think that people are often escaping or hiding their true feelings from themselves: and I will admit that there are times that giving someone this benefit of a doubt can backfire in my face. Hearing words spoken as he did still doesn't stop me from wanting to gain some understanding as to why he thinks this way...but woe to the one who falls in love with him and ignores what he has made so obvious: for after the information he has given out, there should be little surprise as to what she can expect to receive in return.