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Why do transgendered people wear woman's clothing? By Vanessa Law | 05-05-2008 http://findfreearticle.com

Girl friends and wives want to know. Why do men get caught wearing girls clothes? Why does my fiance wear woman's clothes? How can I make him stop cross dressing?

The unfortunate truth, is that there is no quick, one line answer to these questions. If there were, you wouldn't be wearing a skirt, and the critics would be silent.

In my younger years, the obsession with woman's clothes started when I was very young. I must have been about four years old, and I remember going to risky lengths to look for and then dress in my mothers night clothes. My most vivid memory is as a teenager, nervously buying a pair of stockings from a local supermarket and then wearing them home under my pants.

I felt (and still feel) a urge to wear cross dress clothes, and I can't quite explain where it comes from. The media like to think of crosdressing as a abomination, and so naturally they see the desire to crossdress and purely for sex. The challenge with this theory is that when I (and many others) first felt the desire to cros dress I didn't know what sex was.

Many cross dressers I've asked describe the need as 'feeling more comfortable wearing girl's clothes'. This is sometimes (but not always) coupled with the desire to be seen as a girl. To not just dress like a girl, but behave like one as well, to wear make-up and otherwise pass as a girl. There are others who cross dres for sexual excitement. The need to cross dress is indeed a spectrum.

That still doesn't answer the question why do men cross dress?

Marcy proposes a few interesting thoughts to this questions.

One debate is that tvism of cross-dressing is a way of offering a problem to society's preconceptions about gender. Some men wear woman's clothes because they are unhappy at being men. Others didn't mind the male state, but also like to put on women's clothes occasionally. Some dudes wear ladies clothes simply to make a passing social or fashion statement, and some because they have emotional needs that can only be met by the joy that wearing girl's clothes gives them.

Yet the true answer why men cross dress remains somewhat of a unknown. It is intensely personal, often painful and sometimes guilt ridden. I'm hopeful that as society grows more accepting of diverse gender identity we will see more cross dressers and transgendered stepping forward to share their stories. Without the need to argue their behavior, and no longer guilt ridden by society perhaps we will be better able to answer this confusing question.