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More Than Just Personals By Linne Youdin | 26-06-2007 http://www.sexyadsnews.com

Not too long ago my father experienced a severe asthmatic attack in which we almost lost him.

After being in the hospital and then seeing him come home, my focus became spending my time with him while helping out on a daily basis. Preparing meals, running errands, shopping, keeping him company, even doing the gardening for him, left me drained after all the worry and fear that I'd been feeling for several weeks; so when a friend emailed me that there was to be a gathering of a few friends for a cookout that Saturday night, I decided to go. Happily, I told my live-in “other” about it when he came home that night.

“ I've been working pretty hard helping my dad and kind of need some down time to have some fun, so I'm going up to Christine's house Saturday,” I said to him as we stood in the living room together, each doing various things. I thought he'd be glad for me and say: “Good. You should spend some time with your friends.” Instead, he exploded.

“Oh, you've worked pretty hard for the past several weeks so you need some fun,” he mimicked sarcastically. “Well, I've been working hard for the past thirty years while you've been on your ass at times. Maybe I should go out for some fun times.” He grabbed his car keys, said: “I'm going out,” and went out the back door.

I was so stunned at this reaction that I stood there for a few seconds with my mouth hanging open. What the hell?

I knew that I hadn't said anything that warranted this kind of response and a part of me silently called him a selfish, self-absorbed prick. I debated ignoring him but I've well learned that the atmosphere within the house could easily turn to silent unpleasantness for the next two or three days, and not wanting that, I did what I often do and went after him, patiently trying to get him to talk with me. Never mind about my feelings, it seemed. Yet again.

This is where being a member of SexyAds has helped me. The times have been numerous that I have used my blog space to work out personal feelings and have waited to read the responses that people have posted.

The couple of closer friends that I have made have cheered me on with their understanding and acceptance even though we have never met and I have taken a quiet comfort from them. It is not an untruth to state that I have often felt I have received more attention from other members that I have within the relationship that I currently have at home. So it can be with you.